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Book Title: How Not to Be a Perfect Mother: The Crafty Mother's Guide to a Quiet Life|
The author of the book: Libby Purves
Edition: Not Avail
Date of issue: June 26th 1986
ISBN 13: 9780006369882
Format files: PDF
The size of the: 2.61 MB
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Reader ratings: 3.4
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This book was reasonably OK. An easy read which discusses the trials of bringing up children up to the age of 3 years.
It was obvious even though the author says she asked X amount of mothers from different lifestyles, most were based on her own views. For example, the 'feeding' section was soley based on breastfeeding. So all these other mothers she asked, breastfed? So not even one of them bottle fed? I agree 'breast is best' but I feel that what is 'best' for one mother and baby may be different for another.
Personally speaking I felt so guilty even thinking about bottle feeding from midwives preaching when I had my daughter, that for 3 days I persevered with breast feeding with a screaming baby, at the end of my tether and resenting it. It wasnt until an actual nice midwife visited me, telling me my baby needed to go to hospital with severe jaundice due a tongue tie which meant she couldnt latch properly and take a feed. In theory I had starved my daughter for 3 days and was scared to give her a bottle due to the 'bottle bashing' I was expecting from midwives and other health professionals. I still feel guilty now about caring so much about the stigma attached to bottlefeeding... Yet socially I was deemed a better mum for breastfeeding even though it was not helping my daughter at all, and her first 'bottle' made her little day as she was full for the first time. I feel to make this book appropriate to all mothers, there should be no discrimination in this area.
The author makes a lot of good (but obvious) points about how to negotiate with all under 3s. I also feel it is clear that the author used a 'nanny' herself, however I dont know anyone personally who uses a nanny. Maybe social media is to blame, but I hear 'nanny' I think affluent, London family in a detached property? It doesnt mention the lots of parents I know (not myself, as I am lucky enough to have family to help when I work a few afternoons a week) who have no choice but to drop there child/ren at a Day Nursery a few times a week just in order to earn a few hundred pound (minus the nursery fees) this pains more mums I know, returning to work than anything, yet wasnt mentioned in this book, and could be good to discuss.
I dont really want to rant, like I mentioned, this book has good points in it and I feel may be better for a pregnant women to read, to avoid the issues that many of us think are huge when it happens first time round.
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